"We'd love to watch your very detailed slideshow presentation and listen to speeches from all your friends and family members, but please feed us something first! We get restless when we're hungry, and your photos and jokes will seem much less interesting."

"Please don't hold your August wedding in a venue that isn't air-conditioned. Or hold your wedding outside on an evening in November. And, if you do, please warn us in advance so we don't buy a dress for the occasion that we can't wear because it'll be too hot or end up sitting outdoors on a crisp fall evening without a coat that is warm enough to stand up to the evening chill. (Remember to keep in mind the comfort of you and your bridal party too. Your elegant gowns and three-piece tuxes may look sharp, but you'll be sweltering in summertime heat.) Even if your wedding is held outdoors during a pleasant time of year, please still give us a heads-up! That way we'll know not to wear stilettos if we'll be traipsing across the grass to the site of the ceremony."

"My ideal wedding to attend is short and sweet with good food. As guests, all we really need is good food and beverages, and maybe some good music. Don't sweat the small stuff or spend time stressing over minute details that we might not even notice."

"Weddings come in all shapes and sizes, and so do your guests. If your guests are people of size, please carefully consider the seating you provide. Strong, sturdy chairs will benefit everyone while enabling your larger guests to relax and enjoy themselves."

"If the members of your bridal party have different body types, check with the bridal salon ahead of time to find out the range of sizes available, and check with your wedding party to ensure that will be suitable. Keep in mind that bridal sizes are different than street sizes, so getting bust, waist, and hip measurements from the salon will be most helpful. If the salon's offerings will not accommodate your entire party, you can choose a different shop. Or pick a specific color palette and allow your attendants to find their own garments. Flexibility in footwear and jewelry is also important. You want your loved ones to remember your wedding with joy, not the pain of pinched toes or choking necklaces."

"Those of us who are single are not always thrilled about being singled out during the reception to catch bouquets or garters or dance to 'Single Ladies.'"

"Be sure to provide directions with your invitations or on your wedding website for those of us who are from out of town. Drive the route to your venue and make sure the GPS directions match. Road closures and detours don't always show up on online maps. We don't want to miss anything because we get lost on the way to the venue."

"Clearly communicate important information to all the members of your wedding party. Make sure your sister knows exactly which salon you are going to to get your hair done so she doesn't go to another salon where your family has gone regularly to get pedicures. (Especially if she's the one in charge of bringing your grandmother's tiara to the salon so the stylist can finish your hair.)"

"If you ask friends to perform music at your reception, make sure we know that we are guests and will have name tags and seats just like everyone else."

"Take time to introduce the members of the wedding party and how you know them. That way we're not wondering who the person escorting us down the aisle is."

"Keep in mind that while scheduling your wedding on a Friday may garner you discounts, it may mean that we need to take time off work to attend, which can be tricky for those of us with limited vacation days."

"It's cute, but I'm probably never going to actually use this champagne flute/tote bag/trinket that is emblazoned with your monogram or names and wedding date. Something edible - like individually wrapped candies - on the other hand, I could probably find use for. Making a donation to a charity in our honor would also be thoughtful."

"If parking will be off-site and a shuttle will be provided, please mention that ahead of time - on the invitation, ideally - and give the parking location's address. That way we won't arrive at your ceremony venue only to learn that we have to park elsewhere. Also, this will allow us to ensure that we leave plenty of time to catch the shuttle so that we'll arrive at the ceremony on time instead of unfashionably late."